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Mediations Are like Crossword Puzzles.

January 12, 2017

I love mediation and I love crossword puzzles. To me, they are very much alike.  In both:

• We bring our prior knowledge and experiences to bear.

• Focus is usually required.

• There are many clues that lead to a solution.

• Some things we already know and we can fill in the blanks.

• Some clues can be obscure and one must really think.

• Some clues may never be understood.

• It takes time to find the solution.

• Sometimes the answers are readily apparent.

• Sometimes the answers are frustratingly difficult and hard to grasp.

• Sometimes the first answer is not the best answer and one must try again.

• Sometimes one has to fill in the spaces around the missing answers in order to figure them out.

• The answers always intersect.

• The greater the number of people at work on the solution, the greater the likelihood of success.

• Sometimes one must leave it for later.

• It is always worth it to return and try again.

• If this one doesn’t work out, there’s always another.

• When the solution is complete, it feels great.

• It’s also okay if most or even part of the puzzle is solved, if that’s the best one can do at the time.

Before I start a mediation I nearly always work on a crossword puzzle first. I also carry several with me in my briefcase.  Feel free to ask if you’d like to try one too.


David I. Karp is a full time independent mediator of real estate and business disputes in Southern California. His website is at

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