Mediations Are like Crossword Puzzles.
I love mediation and I love crossword puzzles. To me, they are very much alike. In both:
• We bring our prior knowledge and experiences to bear.
• Focus is usually required.
• There are many clues that lead to a solution.
• Some things we already know and we can fill in the blanks.
• Some clues can be obscure and one must really think.
• Some clues may never be understood.
• It takes time to find the solution.
• Sometimes the answers are readily apparent.
• Sometimes the answers are frustratingly difficult and hard to grasp.
• Sometimes the first answer is not the best answer and one must try again.
• Sometimes one has to fill in the spaces around the missing answers in order to figure them out.
• The answers always intersect.
• The greater the number of people at work on the solution, the greater the likelihood of success.
• Sometimes one must leave it for later.
• It is always worth it to return and try again.
• If this one doesn’t work out, there’s always another.
• When the solution is complete, it feels great.
• It’s also okay if most or even part of the puzzle is solved, if that’s the best one can do at the time.
Before I start a mediation I nearly always work on a crossword puzzle first. I also carry several with me in my briefcase. Feel free to ask if you’d like to try one too.
David I. Karp is a full time independent mediator of real estate and business disputes in Southern California. His website is at http://karpmediation.com