Keeping Focus and Giving in to Achieve Settlement.
Many people get so wrapped up in the emotions of their dispute that they lose sight of their goals for resolution and do not reach those goals. Some, perhaps with a reminder from the mediator to “keep your eye on the ball,” make the necessary concessions, even if they hurt, to get to peace.
The latter was the dynamic of a recent mediation which reached resolution when the defendant realized after six hours that a negotiating point ultimately had to be conceded in order for the other side to sign the settlement agreement.
This was not an easy decision for the defendant because it left open an issue – however unlikely or remote – that the defendant nevertheless was trying to manage.
But the question for the defendant was whether “the bird in the hand was worth two in the bush,” that is, whether gaining the settlement was worth losing the negotiating point.
Since the termination of the pending lawsuit was of a greater importance, the defendant made the very hard decision to let go of this one last issue.
It was a real struggle for her, but she kept her focus on her goal and achieved it.
When people make real sacrifices for the sake of peace, it is both remarkable and laudable, as it was in the mediation described.