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Announcement — Martindale-Hubbell® AV Preeminent™ Rating for 2018

As announced on the News page of his website at https://www.karpmediation.com/news/ , “Mediator David I. Karp has been notified that, as in prior years, he has earned for 2018 the Martindale-Hubbell® AV Preeminent™ Rating, the highest possible rating for legal ability and ethical standards.”

For those interested in knowing more about this rating, here is a link to an explanatory video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ekRoRxTp0NQ

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David I. Karp is a full time independent mediator of real estate and business disputes in Southern California.  His business website is at http://karpmediation.com .

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Rosh Hashanah Haiku

You might enjoy these
As you sit down to dinner
For the holiday.

We light the candles.
G-d commanded we do this
To start the New Year.

We have a blessing
For wine, the fruit of the vine.
We say L’Chaim.

Next we say Motzi.
This prayer thanks G-d for bread.
It’s really good stuff.

For a sweet New Year,
We put honey on apples,
A messy custom.

How good it can be
For us to be together
To eat this big meal.

Time to reflect soon,
On what has been and will be,
For a good New Year.

L’shanah tovah.
May you and yours be inscribed
For a good New Year.

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David I. Karp is a full time mediator of real estate and business disputes in Southern California and sometimes enjoys the Haiku form of poetry. His professional website is at http://karpmediation.com .

It Is Not So Convenient to Be Jewish; it Requires Commitment.

It’s just not so easy to be Jewish.

Dietary laws might conflict with menus at restaurants. Holiday observances might conflict with the secular calendar and other responsibilities. Even certain values of justice, fairness and diversity might and often do conflict with the politics of the day.

Nevertheless, we must remain committed to our values, our traditions, our observances … to the extent we can or are willing to do so.

Some will not work, drive or pay money on the Sabbath and other holidays or observances. That’s OK.

Some, perhaps more accommodating to their secular lives, might drive to Shabbat services at their synagogue but keep Kosher … or not.

Some, in the Reform tradition, will keep steadfast the values and ethics of Judaism, but let go of some, even most, of the ritualism of the faith.

All of us must draw the line at some point however.

Even if I do not have a membership any longer in a synagogue, I will still respect the upcoming High Holy Days of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur.

I will not defer them or postpone their observance because they might be mid-week, even if they conflict with other things I or others might like or need to do.

That is not me.

For each person, we define the level of our observance, but at bottom, it is important to have, respect and uphold a Jewish identity.  I will not give that up.

That’s what I think, and that’s the way I will live my life, even if it is inconvenient sometimes.

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David I. Karp is a full time mediator of real estate and business disputes in Southern California who values his Jewish identity even in the face of external challenges.  His website is at http://karpmediation.com .

An Opinion Piece on Doing What is Right and Good

In this week’s Torah portion, called Va’etchanan (Deuteronomy 3:23–7:11) we are reminded, among many other commandments, to do what is right and good (Deut. 6:18).

I know that this is how is live my life, whether, as in the past week, I am taking a shut-in elderly relative out for dinner, or having a recently widowed friend to our home for a meal, or taking care of an infant grandchild, or giving a break on mediation fees for a dispute over a very small sum of money, or whatever.

But I am not convinced that, in the larger sense, our society is doing what is right and good, and I am greatly disturbed by this.

I read about politicians who are blatantly untruthful or apparently think they are above the law.

I hear of foul language being spoken by people in high posts.

I learn that immigrants to our country may be excluded because they do not speak English or do not have sufficient education or technical expertise.

I follow the trending news that those most vulnerable in our society might lose healthcare coverage or be denied the safety net of Medicaid.

I fear that the ACA is being sabotaged for political gain.

I am repulsed by attempts to bar refugees and others from entering our country based upon their religious beliefs.

I am angry that immigrant parents are being separated from their families and are being deported without good cause.

I am upset that LGBTQ individuals may not be treated equally in the military or elsewhere.

I am outraged that women’s healthcare is at risk and that Planned Parenthood is a target.

All told, I am disgusted by so much in the news these days.

It is not right and it is not good, and I think that we, as a society, are better than that.

We have the Constitution: we have Due Process and Equal Protection.

We are a country of laws.

I thought we were a country of morals.

Rashi, a medieval French rabbi and commentator, says that doing what is right and good is a moral obligation to go beyond what we are legally required to do.

There are many reminders in my life of what is right and good.

The Torah portion, Va’etchanan, for instance, recalls the Ten Commandments among other things.

The Scout law reminds us to be trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean and reverent, no matter what our President makes of it.

Freemasonry teaches us to respect freedom and to value kindness, tolerance, and our differences; to take responsibility for the well-being of our brothers, our families, and the community as a whole; and to stay true to our personal code of conduct and ethics – honor, integrity, personal responsibility, and the continuous pursuit of knowledge.

All of this is what is right and what is good and this is how I live my life.

Why is it not so for others in our society?

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David I. Karp is a full time independent mediator of real estate and business disputes in Southern California who sometimes voices his opinion. He is also a Freemason and a retired Scouter. His website is at http://karpmediation.com .

For Life, For Opportunity

In the pool this morning for exercise, I allowed some random thoughts to swim together, as it were, while I was doing my laps. As we all know, sometimes one thought leads to another and what appears to be disconnected actually makes some sense when put together.

This past week, my wife and I and our son attended the funeral and burial of a contemporary of mine. We have been associated with the family for a very long time. The connections ranged from friendships in common social circles to participation together in Scouting over the years.

Afterwards, as is tradition, we visited the family’s home for the so-called meal of condolence (Seudat Havra’ah) and attended the religious service there, which was a part of the afternoon/evening (Shiva Minyan). I returned to the home the following evening as well for the evening prayers and will do so again for as long as the family wishes.

So, naturally, due to the intensity of these events, I have been ruminating about all of this for several days.

Maybe it was the conjunction of Scouting and prayer that led me, randomly while swimming this morning, to think about a particular Scouting prayer that is often said at Scouting events before meals.

It is called The Philmont Grace and it goes like this:

For food, for raiment
For life, for opportunity
For friendship and fellowship
We thank thee, O Lord

I have always liked this prayer. It is simple, succinct, yet all-encompassing. Even so, the part of the prayer that came to me while I was in the pool swimming was the second line: “For life, for opportunity.”

Here’s why:

For life — Our friend who died had a good life, although he was challenged with health issues. From knowing him and from listening to the eulogies, I know that he was a good husband and father, and I am certain he was very proud of his roles as such.  He was a mensch in so many ways and so provided his family during his lifetime with food, raiment, life, opportunity, friendship and fellowship, and much love, all of which made his life important, significant, and memorable.  As we say in our tradition, “may his name be for a blessing.”

For opportunity — For myself, personally, I have come away from these events with my own sense of gratitude for the experience, in that I had the opportunity both to honor this friend’s memory and to lend emotional support to his family during their time of intense grief.

In writing this short piece, I am also reminded of this quote that I have on my business website:

“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” – Sir Winston Churchill

For life, for opportunity — This is what I have been thinking about, and this is how I live my life, ever thankful for the opportunities that come to me to give of myself when I can.

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David I. Karp is a full time independent mediator of real estate and business disputes who has become much more sentimental and reflective as time goes by. His business website is at http://karpmediation.com .

 

Mediation is like Swimming.

It is summer and I do laps in the pool for exercise. While doing so this morning I thought about how much mediation is like swimming.

In both…

Some people only dip in their toes to test the water, some wade in but tentatively at first, and some dive in with purpose.

Some people come alone and many come in groups; everyone brings a cell phone and sometimes a book to read.

Some people are willing to talk to the others at the pool or in the mediation; some are much less communicative and need their own space to get things done.

Some are very confident in the moment and some look as if they need a rescue from time to time.

Some will keep things covered up while others are more willing to show their true selves.

In any event, everyone wants to feel safe and no one wants to get burned.

In both mediation and swimming, people decide when to leave but many stay longer to use their time for their own self-interest and benefit.

In both mediation and swimming, there can be a certain amount of exhaustion but also a sense of satisfaction at the end if one has done what one came to do.

I love swimming and I love mediating. I continue to do both because I know that both ultimately relieve stress and both are good for the heart.

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David I. Karp is a full time independent mediator of real estate and business disputes in Southern California. His website is at http://karpmediation.com .

Potential Exception to Mediation Confidentiality Looming

To my colleagues who practice law in California:

For quite some time, principally as fallout from the California Supreme Court decision in Cassel v. Superior Court, 51 Cal. 4th 113, 244 P.3d 1080, 119 Cal. Rptr. 3d 437 (2011), the California Law Revision Commission (CLRC) has been studying the relationship between mediation confidentiality and attorney malpractice and other misconduct.

Now, CLRC has tentatively recommended the creation of a new exception to mediation confidentiality.

According to the CLRC’s recent Press Release, “the proposed new exception is designed to hold attorneys accountable for misconduct in the mediation process, while also allowing attorneys to effectively rebut meritless misconduct claims.”

CLRC’s Press Release can be found here: http://www.clrc.ca.gov/pub/Press/Press-K402.pdf

Here is a link to the 162 page publication of the CLRC containing the recommendation: http://clrc.ca.gov/pub/Misc-Report/TR-K402.pdf .

The proposed exception is set forth in a proposed statute, Evidence Code Section 1120.5, set out on page 145 of the above publication.

In large part, the mediation community, including me, believes that the proposed exception, or any exception, to confidentiality may have a chilling effect on mediation, and diminish the possibility of settlements in mediation, as there is a risk people will not feel comfortable and speak candidly in mediation if they know that under certain circumstances what has been said and done in mediation may become admissible.

If you believe that the proposed loophole in mediation confidentiality, if it becomes law, may have a negative impact on your use of mediation as a tool for dispute resolution, you might contact the CLRC in that regard. The above Press Release seeks public comment by September 1, 2017.

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David I. Karp is a full time independent mediator of real estate and business disputes in Southern California.  His website is at http://karpmediation.com .

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